I love it when people are affectionate with me. I like when they always invite me places, or text me, or call me, I wouldn’t even mind if they blew up my fb wall with hearts and what not. I would rather have that person than someone who makes me text them first all the time and replies back like 10 hours later.
The fact that that’s considered “clingy” just shows how emotionally defunct we are. It’s considered “clingy” for people to show affection to each other, especially without provocation, or to spontaneously let other people know that they’re thinking of them, or to try to include them in things, or to show any sign of vulnerability by indicating that they value a friendship whatsoever.
And god forbid you do it on a public forum like facebook. God forbid anyone sees it and gets the idea that you value another person. How terribly weak and dependent of you.
“You don’t have to be pretty. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked ‘female’.”—Diana Vreeland